How to lose "friends" and disappoint people

Yes, I'm deliberately spoofing the all-time bestseller, 𝘏𝘰𝘸 𝘵𝘰 𝘸𝘪𝘯 𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘭𝘶𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘱𝘦𝘰𝘱𝘭𝘦. Nothing wrong with the book, except if we truly believe the lie that we can copy and paste some suggested behaviors and produce a predictable outcome in our relationship with anyone. The lie is: If I say "a" to Sally, she'll feel "b" and do "c," and I'll have control of  Sally's alphabet to write her into my story into any role I like.

 

Nope, we can't script people!

 

Each person has a fruitiness to them that completely throws the experiment! That flavor is their temperament. It is the very sap of their tree; the very DNA of their soul genes. It's what produces their fruit by which we can know them. And when they know it and own it, it protects them from overly "influential" people.

 

How does it throw the copy-paste-and-manipulate experiment? It changes how our face looks to them, our voice sounds to them, our intentions seem to them, and our charm lands or backfires. It's their right to decide NOT to be befriended or influenced, but also to fall in love with us or let us into their holiest thoughts. And they alone should own it.

 

And so should you and I. We, too, should own our fruitiness. Here is your permission: Mess with people's attempts to mess with you. Don't be duped into fake fruit. Don't let them force you to be what you're not, to like what you can't stand, or to say what you don't mean!

 

Is it risky to bear the fruit that accurately gives shape to your God-given design instead of letting people hang their preferred plastic fruit on you? You bet it is! It takes bravery to show your shape and color when people reward it with an expression that says, "Yeah, I really don't know about that. You may want to edit a little..."

 

Here's to the brave ones who will lose "friends" (if your authenticity scares them away, where they truly your friends?) and disappoint the people who thought they had all your letters figured out enough to write your story!

 

Know the kind of tree you are and bear your fruit bravely! Look for true friends among those who step closer when they don't understand you to investigate: "Tell me more about this interesting fruit you bear!"

 

P.S. Who knows what fruit this is?